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Ours is less and less of a visiting culture. People will text, email, phone, what’sapp, | Ours is less and less of a visiting culture. People will text, email, phone, what’sapp, | ||
- | The difficulty is that we do not always want to see them. However dear they may be, they may arrive at a time when we are consumed with grief; when perhaps we are re-reading much loved letter; looking at memorable photographs; | + | The difficulty is that we do not always want to see them. However dear they may be, they may arrive at a time when we are consumed with grief; when perhaps we are re-reading much loved letters; looking at memorable photographs; |
Good manners now conflict with emotional honesty. How you deal with that conflict is very much up to you. As someone who has had a lifetime of pitching up on the doorsteps of grieving people, I can assure you that it is entirely acceptable to say: “Sorry, this is not a good time. Could you possibly drop by tomorrow afternoon? | Good manners now conflict with emotional honesty. How you deal with that conflict is very much up to you. As someone who has had a lifetime of pitching up on the doorsteps of grieving people, I can assure you that it is entirely acceptable to say: “Sorry, this is not a good time. Could you possibly drop by tomorrow afternoon? | ||
When they do return, do not feel that you have to lay on a sumptuous tea or spring clean the house. (I have had experience of both - more than once.) | When they do return, do not feel that you have to lay on a sumptuous tea or spring clean the house. (I have had experience of both - more than once.) |