Most of what we have put in the category “Creative memorial service” applies to this topic, so maybe start reading there. There are however some differences. First, you need to be aware that many denominations have a formally prescribed funeral service. Most Ministers will see this as their default: they will use it unless you ask for something else.That said, most Ministers today are very flexible and will go a long way to accommodate your (reasonable) requests. Most will insist on at least one Biblical reading, often on an Easter theme,and obviously, they will want to include prayers for the family, for those who mourn and for the deceased, that they may rest in peace. For the rest, you can choose other readings (poems are a popular choice), music or prayers that mean a lot to you and/or the deceased. If you do not intend to hold a Memorial service later, you may want to include a eulogy in the service. If it is a cremation, you will need to bear in mind that there are very tight limits on the time allotted to each funeral party, so any eulogy will need to be short, especially if the Minister wishes to say something as a homily (which many will feel is their duty on such an occasion.) The same general point applies to the choice of music in a cremation. Many crematoria have a resident organist who will play whatever you request (if so advised by the Undertaker.) But there are severe time constraints of which you need to be aware.(If in doubt, consult the Undertaker.) There is usually much less time pressure in a church or chapel - or a woodland burial. Most funeral venues these days have decent sound systems so you can play any music you can supply. (But a word of warning: If you try to over-compensate for the sad and solemn mood that usually accompanies a funeral, it can sound tasteless and disrespectful. Just be aware of that.)