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 +Birthdays and other significant dates are hard as they often spark memories and act as a reminder of one's loss. Some people choose to commemorate the date and there are a number of ways that people choose.  It could be that this is the date that one makes a special trip to the grave, or to a place that is significant for the deceased and the person that is mourning.  My mother has the names of her parents and her husband written in a book in the crematorium and on their birthdays goes to visit and look at the book and remember them.  It is a good idea to remind yourself of a significant date so that it does not surprise you, one lady I talked to told me that she was devastated on the fifth anniversary of her mother's death that she was going about her business and suddenly remembered - she felt dreadful that she had forgotten.
 +It may be that you are a person who never has really put a lot of energy into birthdays or 'special days' and for you there are no significant dates - this is absolutely fine too.
 +What is important is that whatever you decide to do, or not do you look after yourself and give yourself enough space to mourn, be sad or celebrate.